Sunday, December 4, 2011

Listening, Loving Hearts


Psalm 85:1-2, 8-13

 
                
There sure are lots of acronyms enmeshed in American culture, in the USA.    At least once a week I ask my daughters if they would like a PBJ, a Peanut Butter and Jelly sandwich.   In lots of conversations I’ll either say or hear a reference to being or not being PC, Politically Correct.  There always seems to be good reason to say FYI, For Your Information.     When wondering what exact time someone is going to show up at my office or home, I’ll ask them about their ETA, Estimated Time of Arrival.     As a pastor of the PC(USA), the Presbyterian Church in the United States of America, I will on occasion need to consult the BOO, the Book of Order as well as the BOP, the Board of Pensions.  

I could definitely offer a very long list of the many words formed from the initial letters of set phrases.    But this morning, it’s an acronym that originated in my mind one day while parenting that I hope will be helpful for us to know as we reflect on today’s Psalm and what love means in the context of this Advent season

How many of you have children and grandchildren who, when asked to do something, always listen the very first time the request is made?   Now, and on the other hand, how many of you have to make repeated requests?   In home life with my dear daughters, I admit I’m often on repeat.   Then, with impatient frustration, I very often exclaim, Listen the First Time!   So often, in fact, this phrase gave birth to a new household acronym – LIFT.   How well the acronym is responded to may not be much better than if I use the full phrase, but I enjoy saying it anyway!   “Children, FYI, our ETA is 7:30, so LIFT and let’s get those PBJ’s made!”

When I read Psalm 84, I’m inspired to wonder how many times throughout history God might have shouted LIFT in our direction.    God is always speaking.   God speaks through every page of Scripture, straight to our hearts and minds through the power of the Holy Spirit.  God speaks as well through hymns, sermons, Bible studies and through every day conversations and interactions.   How well do we listen the first time? How often is God on repeat?
            
I find the human frustration children not listening the first time rises out of a desire to be heard, respected, and ultimately trusted for having the family’s best interests at heart.   It is not arbitrary -- it is firmly rooted in deep abiding love.  Direct, loving communication is needed as a constant in family life.  
            
Since each of us was knit together at our birth by the abiding love of our Creator, it seems true enough from reading the Scriptures that God gets frustrated when we fail to listen.   This, in turn, can become frustration for our faithful family life.    While God’s grace covers all failures, we aren’t excused from diligently working toward a healthy, mutually loving relationship with God and with one another.  We need to listen with love, to declare, along with the Psalmist, “Let me hear what God the Lord will speak …”    
            
How well do you welcome this divine, community of love building communication?    What blocks you from intentionally making time to lovingly listen to God?
            
Asking questions like these is what I do when I meet people one on one for spiritual direction.    Spiritual direction is a set-apart time from other pastoral duties where I prayerfully discern with someone where God might be most actively engaging that person’s daily life.   It’s a special, intentional time for listening to sacred love.   Just a quick reminder– I am available as a Spiritual Director (which, come to think of it, is more like being a Spiritual Connector!) to you, your loved ones, your friends, pretty much whomever wants to be intentional about the time.  
            
I mention it here because when I was training for certification in this field of ministry, my favorite required reading was a book called The Awakened Heart.   It was written by Gerald May, an M.D. who practiced medicine and psychiatry for twenty-five years before becoming a truly inspiring teacher of contemplative spiritual practices.   
            
In May’s chapter “Loving the Source of Love,” he writes how having a more child-like faith can help us be more directly attentive to God’s presence in our lives.   In a beautiful turn of phrase, he invites us to consider the “unadmitted sparkle of the child” we each have within us.   In this sparkle, he encourages us to recognize that we have, to quote him directly, “a sometime longing to climb into God’s father lap, to nestle against God’s motherly breast, to rest for a moment in the shadow of God’s wings … held in God’s strong and tender arms.”  Following this affirmation, he continues with this question – “If you could allow yourself to feel it, are there not times when you would love to cry on God’s shoulder, to let God tell you are worthwhile and beautiful?”   
            
I sure find this to be a rhetorical question … especially since I believe we are spiritually hard-wired to crave this attention and nurture from our Creator.     Dr. May follows next with some blunt bit of advice.    “Dispense with your maturity for a moment and indulge yourself … direct relationship with God is the one place where you can be absolutely trusting of your desire and give it full reign.  You will never know how safe the place is until you risk being in it fully.”
            
All relationships require this risk … this deepening of trust of between our most basic desires and another person.   It’s so much more so with our first love, the love that never lets us go … the love we experience with God.  
              
I surely hear this spiritually-centering risk in the Psalmist’s voice.   It’s not a voice making academic sounding statements about the reality of God.   It’s a voice confessing the basic need to turn the human heart toward heavenly hope.   It’s the voice of a child of God waiting on a holy, loving, parental kiss.    Evidence of this kiss takes form, sings the Psalmist, wherever God’s steadfast love and our faithfulness meet, wherever signs of God’s deep peace and our right living share intimacy.   
           
In this Advent season, we are preparing ourselves to be reminded on Christmas Eve when and where and why this holy kiss most fully happened in the course of human history.  We are preparing our imaginations to enter into ancient history and hear God directly speaking to us of love, beginning with the gleeful gurgles of a newborn infant so tender and mild.   
            
Yet so much of our preparation time for this intimate audience with the Almighty gets audibly blasted by commercial begging and the sounds of stress within and around us.   The space we should be creating to listen in love for what God has to say to us gets so easily crowded out by extra demands on our time and drains on our energy.     We get culturally forced to focus more on mommy kissing Santa Claus than on Christ come to kiss our sin away.     The life presented to us by Psalm 84 – a life “portrayed as full, complete, and healthy … lived to the fullest in relationship with God as part of a community of faith”[i] – gets squeezed into commercialized spaces.    We get repeatedly tempted to replace thoughts about right living with God with obsessions about getting the right gifts and having the right décor.  
            
All the while, I honestly believe God cries out, LIFT!  Listen to the First Time I spoke saying “Let there be light” and declared all of Creation good.  Listen to the First Time I spoke to humankind saying “Be fruitful and multiply” along with invitation to be faithful companions and stewards of all.    Listen to the First Time I warned of the dire consequence of eating from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.    Listen to the First Time I made covenant promises and cried out through prophets.  Listen to the First Time I directly took a human breath and cried out for love.   
            
A fellow preacher’s blog, which can be found at www.theharestquestion.com, has this insightful conclusion about the meaning of Psalm 84 – “God does not deny the inherent tensions in the nature of humanity, the capacity for great love and great deceit,” for “love and faithlessness” but “God does not consider these tensions reason to alter God’s plan for our creation.”   
           
So very true.   God’s plan for wholeness in relationship with us and all of Creation does not ever cease.    We live with and through these tensions, these times of listening and loving and times of turning deaf ear and of denying, because we do believe God’s most precious, most intimate, most communicative plan for creation was birthed in Bethlehem of long ago.    And this good news is one hundred plus percent uplifting!   So may we each turn our hearts and declare our willingness to listen to what the Lord is speaking in love this very moment, in this special hour, on this Advent day.  Amen.
           
                  
           

           


[i] www.workingpreacher.org, January 28, 2011

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